Monday, November 17, 2014

The DN




1   Welcome back. My Dad's service at St. Robert's in San Bruno must have been orchestrated by my Mom.

2   From the moment we walked in there was love everywhere. The altar had autumn flowers, candles and even pumpkins. 

3   The choir director from St. Dunstan's was not only there, but she also had an operatic voice that would make angels cry.

4    My niece Amy read some passages from the Bible, and my daughter Nicole read a piece that Amy wrote years ago. My nephew Michael talked about the experience of going to a Niner game at Candlestick, including a bit about how awesome the mortadella sandwiches were going to be. Nailed it. He confessed in the end that he realized after his first bite that he didn't like mortadella. 

5   My Dad was a signaler in the Coast Guard, and my sister brought the Coast Guard in to play Taps. They folded the flag and presented it to me. I held it proudly to my heart as Taps played. 

6   The priest then told the story of how Dad had worked for Wonder Bread, which I always loved, and later tied it in with Jesus and the bread of life. I tied it in my own head with The Wonder Years. 

 7  My sister Gayle's good friend Lisa wrote and presented a lovely piece entitled The Home on Helen Drive, opening the door for everyone there to enter our loving past. We would all exit the church and go there after Mass for the celebration of not only Dad's, but of all of our lives. It warmed everyone's hearts. So eloquent and beautiful. 

8   I followed Lisa. By happenstance, I wrote a piece about Helen Drive as well. I  prefaced by first explaining that as a former show director, I knew you should never follow babies or dogs on stage. I had to add Lisa to that group. I also had to correct the priest, who said that my parents had always attended St. Robert's Church. "Father, they began attending St. Robert's only when you named the church after my Dad," I said. 

9   Here's the poem I wrote all those years ago:



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1


         my Dad
                       had a shoeshine kit
               that snapped shut
            with one of those suitcase 
               latches
                   it had a wooden
               thing shaped like a foot
                     and you would put
                      your shoe on it. 

           Inside was the usual
                   for those days
                 one can of brown polish
                     another of black,
                     a small brush with a                          
                         handle for applique,
                         a soft brush
                             for buffing
                     and finally, a small
                            buffing rag
                                  which he would fluff
                            and shimmy across
                      his shoes until
                           they shone
           "Be sure to always do the back,"
                        he would say
                 "because in the Army, you'll 
                    have two minutes to
                   get this done, and
                        they'll look at the backs."
                  He would then deposit
                          a very clean spit
                           right in the middle 
                           of his shoe,
                             the crowning glory
                                  to a job well-done. 

2

            We would walk down Helen Drive
                to Church on Sundays
                         past the shrubberies
                         and garden hoses,
                               until we arrived at the front
                          of St. Dunstan's
                                   (or was it the back? I always            wondered      
where the front of the Church was)
                 
                 On entering I would
                      dip my hand on a little
                  blue sponge, which was
                inside a sort of
              white sea shell
                                            and do the sign of
                                             the Cross, because the 
                                             sponge was blessed.
                                 we would walk past
                                 the table
                                 and through the second set of doors
                                where 
                                  the air of tabernacle
                         and Eucharist
                                  would make me solemn.
                      A long red carpet
                                    led up to
                        either the front
                          or the back
                            of the Church
                 where an enormous
                                                  crucifix
                                                          hung breathlessly
                                                      beneath two lights
                                     I remember kneeling down
                                and looking up 
                                       wondering how tall the
                      crucifix
                                       was
                  I figured Jesus
                  could probably have
                      easily been able
                                          to slam dunk
                           a basketball
                   but those are things
              that go on in your
                                              mind when you are
                                                    ten
                                                                     in Church.


3


                          The Collection was
                                one of my favorite
       moments 
                       because my Dad
             would be one of the
               guys who would
                                                     pass around
                             the basket
                                     and damned if his
                                         shiny shoes
                                                                didn't work
        perfectly on the
                                   red carpet.

4

                             I always loved
                             wondering what color robes
                                the priest would wear
                                because they all

           stood for things.

5

                                       At the altar
                                           red and white robed
                                           choirboys
                                         would carry tall
                                              brass things
                                     like crosses
                                            and candle-snuffers
                                          and bells
                                                   that when
                                            rung gently
                                               meant you had to
                                             bow your head
                                                and pat
                                                     your heart
                                                     with your
                                                  right fist. 

6

                                       Communion.

7

                                       We would take
                                             the long walk
                                         back up Helen Drive
                                             my shoes scuffed
                                                Dad's
                                              as pristine
                                               as when we left
                                                   and the sun shone
                                                       on our shoes
                                    
                                           and our souls
                                   never realizing
                                       the importance
                                          of
                                      a long walk
                                         home
                                              from Church.

10  The Mass finished, and the Father's last words were that we were all to meet afterwards at the Home on Helen Drive. 

11  The rest was all family, laughs, loves, music and tears. 

12   And it is all now a Wondrous blur.

13   One thing is sure: The Home on Helen worked its magic one more time. 

14   At one point I looked at the Hill across the street, and at the clouds dancing in the afternoon sky. 

15   It all worked. I'm quite certain that Dad has joined Mom and everyone he ever loved, and that they sent their grace and love from the highest realm.

16   Gottago.

17   I have, after all, a saloon to run.

18   See you again.

19   Peace.


~H~






                                                                   
          

                                                      


                               
         
                    

                       
  
                  
             

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